How was church?
TheMIghtyLCUCC
How was church today is a question that I get asked quite a bit as a pastor. On Sundays when I get home after church and one of my sons is home they may ask, how was church? Or if I’m visiting a family member they may ask, how was church?
Most of the time I’ll ask someone who was there at the service how it was for them. I can answer how it was for me but standing behind the pulpit preaching, offering prayers, or serving Communion, it feels different. I like to hear how it was for the folks who were in the pews experiencing the worship service. Not just the sermon that I preached, but the entire service, complete with the music, prayers, including the sermon.
On this Sunday, in particular, I can answer that question. However, it may have an unexpected twist.
Both of my sons are walking in this world as young men in their early twenties yet still carrying the spirit of the tiny children they once were. Those tiny little beings that I carried around in my arms as they grew to be walking bigger children, then into teenagers who worked to figure out who they were in the world with all the struggles that accompany those growing up years.
Now as young men, I can see the fully human beings they were from the beginning, yet still the little dudes who, to this day, put a smile on my face and a warmth in my heart, no matter that they outgrew me in height. When I am in their presence those men still hold the spirit of my baby boys.
My youngest son asked me how church was today. I asked his mom, who was in the kitchen with us and who had attended, how it was for her. She expressed her appreciation for the people of the church, saying it was lovely as always, and how she liked what I preached, even if it had a twinge of uncomfortable.
It was Transfiguration Sunday. This is the Sunday where Jesus takes a couple of His disciples with Him up a mountain and experiences the angelic visitation of Moses and Elijah. One of His crew, Peter, wants to pitch camp and stay in the moment instead of going to Jerusalem, where he knows that Jesus will be crucified.
My wife explained that it was one of those sermons I preach every now and then that she knows she needs to hear but doesn’t want to. She did talk about the message of hope that will sustain us, even in the uncomfortable moments of our lives.
Her favorite college basketball team was on in a few minutes so she left us to talk.
I leaned against the sink where it feels like only a moment ago this young man with a deep voice was scurrying around, no taller than the counter tops.
We ended up talking about the task of writing a book and stepping into a whole new realm for me. I shared with him that sometimes I don’t feel I have the intellect to be doing some of the things that I’m doing. Writing a book about antiracism and theology is an entirely new and different experience for me. An experience that stretches beyond my comfort zone and touches on the nerve of vulnerability that we all carry.
That conversation ended up dovetailing into dialogue about what it was like being a father and my shortcomings I felt when they were little. He affirmed how much he appreciates me as his dad, and I shared how proud I am of him as a young man, how proud I am of both of them, coming into their own.
We both shared a couple of stories about being stretched out of our comfort zone. I was able to express how there were times when they were little, I knew I wanted to do it differently than I had experienced my dad. I told him how when I was younger my father kind of cut me off emotionally once I hit a certain age. I have great respect, admiration and love for my father, but I felt I wanted to do it differently with my boys.
I was able to share that I knew when they were young, if we were to have the kind of relationship I wanted with them when they got to be later teens, and into young adulthood, that relational groundwork had to be laid in the very early years of our relationship.
It was a wonderful conversation. My son and I were both able to share our appreciation for each other, from child to parent, and from parent to child. It was the open and honest conversation I envisioned having with my kids who are now young men.
How was church today? Church was beautiful today.
You see, I wonder if that is what church is meant to do. Instead of church simply being just a moment in time to share songs and teachings, maybe church is the spiritual space we need to open our hearts to the movement of the Spirit . Then, when we leave church, the Spirit goes with us and carries us to the next time we come to experience the movement of the spirit in community: church.
How was church today? Church was beautiful today.
I carried church with me into that conversation with my son. In that conversation we were able to share openly and lovingly. I was reminded that church is much more than a moment in time for an hour or so on Sunday mornings.
Church is one of many spiritual conduits that we are given to open our minds, our hearts and our souls to the movement of the spirit.
Today the title of my sermon was A Hope Which Sustains.
Hope, found in our Christian tradition, tells us that love is eternal. Not the little love, but big love. Love big enough to hold the universe together in relationship. No matter what we do to one another in the name of the empire of greed and power, including lynching the One who came to show all of humanity what big love looks like alive in the world, love will never leave.
The One who showed them and shares with us:
Where there is love there is hope.
Where there is big love there is big hope
A hope which sustains.
How was church today? Church was beautiful today!